Wasted days and wasted nights

Tell us your tried and true techniques for focusing when that deadline looms and you need to get work done. In other words, how do you avoid wasted days and wasted nights?

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To find a way through the overwhelming confusion, I will usually do a mind map – basically writing down every possible thing that is on my mind. Often I will cover a page and it doesn’t have to be neat. Then I may group some sections together using different coloured highlighters. They may be a group based on topics such as: jobs needing doing in the house, assignments due, appointments to be made or to be kept.

When my page is sorted into chunks I will then put them through the following:

URGENT/IMPORTANT

URGENT/NOT IMPORTANT

NOT URGENT/IMPORTANT

NOT URGENT/NOT IMPORTANT

As you would expect, I then deal with the URGENT/IMPORTANT tasks first, taking one at a time.

Another strategy may be to negotiate for more time if you have a legitimate reason. You need to be kind to yourself and not apply too much pressure. By being under pressure and stressed, it will impact on your ability to do the task anyway – it may even block you from getting started.

When all procrastination is out of the way – just put one foot in front of the other and start doing what needs to be done!

 

My fridge magnets

Actually they are on my filing cabinet really :-)

1. One day as a TIGER is worth thousands as a SHEEP

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2. Chill out!

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3. God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change

Courage to CHANGE the things I can

And WISDOM to know the difference

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4. DANCE as though no-one is watching you

LOVE as though you have never been hurt

SING as though no-one can hear you

LIVE as though heaven is on earth

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5. Go confidentially in the direction of your dreams

Live the life you have imagined (Thoreau)

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On the look out for whales in Geographe Bay in October 2013

 

Unhelpful thoughts …

Do you ever jump to conclusions? I know I do. I get into a bad habit of assuming the worst.

money box 003I found a handout today while sorting my files. It is from The Centre for Clinical Interventions.

It is a good reminder not to get into bad thinking habits such as jumping to conclusions. The leaflet says:

‘We jump to  conclusions when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking (mind reading) and when we make predictions about what is going to happen in the future.’

I often stumble of over this one – especially if I am feeling a bit low. Truth is that we never know what someone else is thinking! So why not assume they are thinking something good?

cheers

Lorraine

Be who you are – you don’t need fixing!

Capture 6For as long as I can remember I have tried to fix myself and make myself a better person. Even in my first ten years I collected sayings and quotes about life and how to live. I was a bit of a rebel in my teens and tended to listen to the wisdom of the Beatles, Bob Dylan, Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin :-)

In my 20s I was overwhelmed with life and sought wisdom from other sources. The one that helped me most was Helen Steiner Rice. It is a timely reminder as my favourite was “A Prayer for the New Year”.

New Year Prayer

God grant us this year a wider view,
So we see others’ faults through the eyes of You.
Teach us to judge not with hasty tongue,
Neither the adult … nor the young.

Give us patience and grace to endure
And a stronger faith so we feel secure.
Instead of remembering, help us forget
The irritations that caused us to fret.

Freely forgiving for some offense
And finding each day a rich recompense.
In offering a friendly, helping hand
And trying in all ways to understand;

That all of us whoever we are …
Are trying to reach an unreachable star.
For the great and small … the good and bad,
The young and old … the sad and glad

Are asking today; Is life worth living?
The answer is only in, loving and giving.
For only Love can make man kind
And Kindness of Heart brings Peace of Mind.

By giving love, we can start this year
To lift the clouds of hate and fear.

~Author- Helen Steiner Rice~

The lines that really spoke to me were … “Are asking today; Is life worth living?
The answer is only in, loving and giving."

I was brought up in the Catholic faith but had left that behind in my teens. As an adult I returned to Christianity and spent many happy years there. The faith in God and the fellowship with others was a great support and strength in my life during that time.

In more recent years I have studied philosophy and eastern belief systems. I guess I am still in that phase of my life now. I realise now that I don’t need fixing as much as I thought I did. I also realise that even with the many hours trying to fix myself, I am still much the same person as I was many years ago.

I would hope that others realise they are OK as they are! Sure, we sometimes need to tweak aspects of our personalities to make it easier to live in society.

Fundamentally though, YOU ARE OK AS YOU ARE!

Our deepest fear

English: There is no fear, until we make it up.

English: There is no fear, until we make it up. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Today I was reading through some notes from a course I did in 2006 called ‘Prosper from your Passion’. It aimed to help us participants find what we were passionate about and enable us to develop strategies to make our passions become our realities.  The tutor was from http://www.careerwisdom.com.au and she provided handouts of some well-known inspirational messages including Quotes from Marianne Williamson.

 

The one below is my favourite …

 

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is
that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness
that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a
child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is
nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel
insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were
born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just
in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we
unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are
liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates
others.”


Marianne Williamson,

A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

 

Belief

Albany and Denmark July 2011 017There was a time when I had a really strong faith in God. I went to a Catholic school as a child but, as an adult, I changed over to the Anglican Church. It was a powerful, spiritual experience and a very important part of my life.

Many years have gone by and my faith has gradually disappeared. I try to keep an open mind, especially in times of difficulty when I want help from on High. I always used to feel that at least I can pray for others, when I am powerless to do anything else.

I used to believe that God gave each of us special gifts and that we would only find fulfillment in our lives by using those gifts to make the world a better place. I still quite like the sound of that one.

The best I can come up with now is that maybe God is the source of energy experienced by all of nature. I accept that as a mere human I don’t know all the answers – I can’t see the BIG picture.

Today I learn from some of the teachings of Buddhism, philosophy and keeping life simple – accepting what I cannot change and changing what I can. I still see great wisdom in many of the teachings in the Bible and the beauty of the psalms and so forth. However, it is nature that feeds my soul and sustains me.

 

Daily Prompt: Regrets – I’ve had a few

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What’s your biggest regret? How would your life have been different if you’d made another decision?

Well let me make it absolutely clear that I wouldn’t change anything in my life as I believe things happen for a reason and our experiences make us the people that we are today!

However, I am going to suspend that thought so that I can play around with this blog post. For a start, I would address the following:

  • I would be a stable, self-confident teenager with lots of interests, including sport
  • I would complete high school with excellent results
  • From there I would go on to University to develop my skills, knowledge and life experience
  • I would not have married at eighteen as I wasn’t even sure who I was at that age
  • I can never regret having my three sons – the best thing I ever did!
  • I would enjoy a career that somehow related to writing and I would become very knowledgeable and confident in my field of interest
  • I would continue to take part in sport throughout my life – enhancing my health and fitness today
  • If I had the opportunity to re-do my role as a parent I would be a better mum in all possible ways
  • I would also be a better daughter and appreciate, love and respect my parents a lot more and not take them for granted.

So, back to reality … I did the best I could with what I knew then. That is all we can do :-)

cheers

Lorraine

Daily Post: on the edge

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Daily Post Challenge – We all have things we need to do to keep an even keel — blogging, exercising, reading, cooking. Well, what do you do when things don’t go as you hoped or if you hit the proverbially wall?

For me, I do the following:

  • take one hour at a time and plan what I want to do in that hour. If things are really bad I might break it down to the next fifteen minutes
  • if I have to face someone when feeling at rock bottom I remember my former boss’s advice – smile and keep breathing – no-one will notice what you are feeling inside
  • do a mind map – or more appropriately, a mind dump. I get a sheet of paper and write down everything that is going on in my head. I might then lump them together in categories, allocate a level of importance, or ask myself what I CAN change and what I CAN’T. If I can’t change something I decide to try acceptance and move on.
  • seek out nature – the beach, forest, parkland or similar – very calming and good for the soul
  • reflect on my past achievements – write them down if that might help me feel better
  • think about what has gone well in my life – today and in the past – make a list
  • think about someone else and decide to do something for them with a compassionate heart – it alters the way I feel about myself
  • consider how this current situation will impact on  me in the future – one year; two years; five years and so forth – that can help get things into perspective
  • if none of the above work there is always the option of snuggling up in my bed and feeling the warmth and comfort of some time out

There are probably hundreds of different ways to deal with being ‘on the edge’. I would love to hear what works for you.

Cheers

Lorraine