Won’t we all be pleased when the concept of a ‘selfie’ is but a memory!
Actually they are on my filing cabinet really
1. One day as a TIGER is worth thousands as a SHEEP
2. Chill out!
3. God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I cannot change
Courage to CHANGE the things I can
And WISDOM to know the difference
4. DANCE as though no-one is watching you
LOVE as though you have never been hurt
SING as though no-one can hear you
LIVE as though heaven is on earth
5. Go confidentially in the direction of your dreams
Live the life you have imagined (Thoreau)
Do you ever jump to conclusions? I know I do. I get into a bad habit of assuming the worst.
I found a handout today while sorting my files. It is from The Centre for Clinical Interventions.
It is a good reminder not to get into bad thinking habits such as jumping to conclusions. The leaflet says:
‘We jump to conclusions when we assume that we know what someone else is thinking (mind reading) and when we make predictions about what is going to happen in the future.’
I often stumble of over this one – especially if I am feeling a bit low. Truth is that we never know what someone else is thinking! So why not assume they are thinking something good?
For as long as I can remember I have tried to fix myself and make myself a better person. Even in my first ten years I collected sayings and quotes about life and how to live. I was a bit of a rebel in my teens and tended to listen to the wisdom of the Beatles, Bob Dylan, Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin
In my 20s I was overwhelmed with life and sought wisdom from other sources. The one that helped me most was Helen Steiner Rice. It is a timely reminder as my favourite was “A Prayer for the New Year”.
New Year Prayer
God grant us this year a wider view,
So we see others’ faults through the eyes of You.
Teach us to judge not with hasty tongue,
Neither the adult … nor the young.
Give us patience and grace to endure
And a stronger faith so we feel secure.
Instead of remembering, help us forget
The irritations that caused us to fret.
Freely forgiving for some offense
And finding each day a rich recompense.
In offering a friendly, helping hand
And trying in all ways to understand;
That all of us whoever we are …
Are trying to reach an unreachable star.
For the great and small … the good and bad,
The young and old … the sad and glad
Are asking today; Is life worth living?
The answer is only in, loving and giving.
For only Love can make man kind
And Kindness of Heart brings Peace of Mind.
By giving love, we can start this year
To lift the clouds of hate and fear.
~Author- Helen Steiner Rice~
The lines that really spoke to me were … “Are asking today; Is life worth living?
The answer is only in, loving and giving."
I was brought up in the Catholic faith but had left that behind in my teens. As an adult I returned to Christianity and spent many happy years there. The faith in God and the fellowship with others was a great support and strength in my life during that time.
In more recent years I have studied philosophy and eastern belief systems. I guess I am still in that phase of my life now. I realise now that I don’t need fixing as much as I thought I did. I also realise that even with the many hours trying to fix myself, I am still much the same person as I was many years ago.
I would hope that others realise they are OK as they are! Sure, we sometimes need to tweak aspects of our personalities to make it easier to live in society.
Fundamentally though, YOU ARE OK AS YOU ARE!
Today I was reading through some notes from a course I did in 2006 called ‘Prosper from your Passion’. It aimed to help us participants find what we were passionate about and enable us to develop strategies to make our passions become our realities. The tutor was from http://www.careerwisdom.com.au and she provided handouts of some well-known inspirational messages including Quotes from Marianne Williamson.
The one below is my favourite …
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is
that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness
that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a
child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is
nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel
insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were
born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just
in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we
unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are
liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates
There was a time when I had a really strong faith in God. I went to a Catholic school as a child but, as an adult, I changed over to the Anglican Church. It was a powerful, spiritual experience and a very important part of my life.
Many years have gone by and my faith has gradually disappeared. I try to keep an open mind, especially in times of difficulty when I want help from on High. I always used to feel that at least I can pray for others, when I am powerless to do anything else.
I used to believe that God gave each of us special gifts and that we would only find fulfillment in our lives by using those gifts to make the world a better place. I still quite like the sound of that one.
The best I can come up with now is that maybe God is the source of energy experienced by all of nature. I accept that as a mere human I don’t know all the answers – I can’t see the BIG picture.
Today I learn from some of the teachings of Buddhism, philosophy and keeping life simple – accepting what I cannot change and changing what I can. I still see great wisdom in many of the teachings in the Bible and the beauty of the psalms and so forth. However, it is nature that feeds my soul and sustains me.
What’s your biggest regret? How would your life have been different if you’d made another decision?
Well let me make it absolutely clear that I wouldn’t change anything in my life as I believe things happen for a reason and our experiences make us the people that we are today!
However, I am going to suspend that thought so that I can play around with this blog post. For a start, I would address the following:
- I would be a stable, self-confident teenager with lots of interests, including sport
- I would complete high school with excellent results
- From there I would go on to University to develop my skills, knowledge and life experience
- I would not have married at eighteen as I wasn’t even sure who I was at that age
- I can never regret having my three sons – the best thing I ever did!
- I would enjoy a career that somehow related to writing and I would become very knowledgeable and confident in my field of interest
- I would continue to take part in sport throughout my life – enhancing my health and fitness today
- If I had the opportunity to re-do my role as a parent I would be a better mum in all possible ways
- I would also be a better daughter and appreciate, love and respect my parents a lot more and not take them for granted.
So, back to reality … I did the best I could with what I knew then. That is all we can do
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Daily Post Challenge – We all have things we need to do to keep an even keel — blogging, exercising, reading, cooking. Well, what do you do when things don’t go as you hoped or if you hit the proverbially wall?
For me, I do the following:
- take one hour at a time and plan what I want to do in that hour. If things are really bad I might break it down to the next fifteen minutes
- if I have to face someone when feeling at rock bottom I remember my former boss’s advice – smile and keep breathing – no-one will notice what you are feeling inside
- do a mind map – or more appropriately, a mind dump. I get a sheet of paper and write down everything that is going on in my head. I might then lump them together in categories, allocate a level of importance, or ask myself what I CAN change and what I CAN’T. If I can’t change something I decide to try acceptance and move on.
- seek out nature – the beach, forest, parkland or similar – very calming and good for the soul
- reflect on my past achievements – write them down if that might help me feel better
- think about what has gone well in my life – today and in the past – make a list
- think about someone else and decide to do something for them with a compassionate heart – it alters the way I feel about myself
- consider how this current situation will impact on me in the future – one year; two years; five years and so forth – that can help get things into perspective
- if none of the above work there is always the option of snuggling up in my bed and feeling the warmth and comfort of some time out
There are probably hundreds of different ways to deal with being ‘on the edge’. I would love to hear what works for you.
I have experienced a lot of changes in the past few years. I guess that is to be expected considering I gave up a good permanent job, left the city for a lifestyle change in the country and I lost touch with some old friends and made some new ones.
I have tried to make a new life for myself – one that fits me better and allows me to be more authentic as a person. I have tried a few jobs working for others and decided I don’t want to do that anymore. I am exploring self-employment (using my writing skills) and I really enjoy it – when the work comes my way. It is really different from getting a regular fortnightly wage. Every time I have a quiet spell with no work coming in I become convinced that I will never get any more work!
I am studying now (publishing, editing and design) and it is really interesting. It is a bit hard studying online as I don’t get to talk to other students and share ideas. The more I study I start to see how different my life may have been if I did this 30+ years ago. I have decided to learn as much as I can this semester – not just to pass the Unit but to really learn and improve my knowledge and skills.
Years ago I started a University course with the intention to write and produce reading material for adults with literacy problems. I abandoned the idea as I had other commitments at the time, plus I was sure that others would see a gap in the market and address it. However it seems that there is still a shortage of relevant reading materials for adults with limited literacy. I believe that I may now be able to meet that goal. I will start with one book and take it one step at a time.
This decision is very grounding. I have something I want to do and my current study is providing me with the means to do it. There may have some financial benefit down the track but I am more focused on the goal than the finances. I will still put my name about for writing assignments but not get obsessed about it.
Leaving full-time work to explore alternative pathways is exciting, challenging and sometimes confusing. So much of our identities can get tied up with what work we do or who we work for. Not having an employer to hide behind, it is up to me to choose my own path and the consequences that come with it.
To me, being normal is about avoiding extremes. At one time I wasn’t happy unless I achieved something 100%. I believe it is all very subjective, especially when it comes to writing. When I worked for the Government it wasn’t unusual for correspondence to go back and forth to the Executive and/or the Minister’s office. At some point one has to draw a line in the sand and say enough!
In primary school my family were delighted when I had the top marks in a test or assignment. I think I got a bit addicted to getting the praise. I wasn’t particularly good at cooking etc so my school work was my area of ability. As I reached the higher levels in school I found I had more competition and was surprised when others overtook my skill level.
When I study today I still try to get the best possible results but I am not obsessed about it. In life generally I am content to be “average” and know that is OK.
NORMAL is so variable! Consider different cultures, customs, languages, religions and ideologies etc. We can only do what is right for us and respect the differences in others.